As parents, our instincts and decisions are repeatedly undermined, mostly by 'experts', other parents or others trying to be 'helpful'. But it's often not at all helpful.
What you need is support! So here's my tip - ask those who are giving unwelcome advice to help out instead, by providing meals, picking up groceries or putting out the washing. And ask them to support you, rather than telling you what you're doing wrong. New parents are more than capable of self-criticism - you don't need help with that!
Nobody knows your baby as well as you do. If unwanted ‘advice’ is undermining you as a parent, then try the ‘smile and nod’ approach - be gracious, say thanks and smile as if you mean it, then forget it all and don't let it bother you.
Every baby is different and every family is different, so don't worry about advice that isn't right for your family. Don't waste your precious energy arguing the point or stressing.
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Author: Helen Stevens. RN. RM. MCHN. Manager of Clinical Services, Education and Research. Parent Infant Consultants. 0411880720.